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Why shouldn’t you check on your ex’s social media ?
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Top Comment: everytime i stalked it only had 2 outcomes. i stalk and find nothing, so there was no point i stalk and find smth, so i feel like shit knowing this i often fold out of curiosity still. its hard man.
My ex blocked me on social media . what should i do ?
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So about a month ago me and my ex stopped talking and i tried to reason with me her but she was adamant on her decision. i accepted it for what it was and was trying to just move on. I got a new job a week later and she texted me congratulating me and said it was hard seeing me watch her story and not say anything. eventually we kept talking for a few days and i just asked like why are we still texting and she told me she wants to be friends. i was hesitant but gave it a shot for about a week but i couldn’t hide my feelings and she ended up saying i made her uncomfortable. i told her sorry and told her that i think she’s a terrific friend and person but i can’t hide my feelings and we should stop texting . she didn’t respond. for two weeks i got no response and i woke up today to see she blocked me on snapchat and instagram. honestly i felt like we didn’t leave on bad terms but i’m blocked lol . she didn’t block my number though. i’m kind of conflicted but i know the obvious choice here is to just move on but i wanna ask her or her friend who introduced us to each other why she blocked me . should i block her on every other social media platform and her number or what? and can any girls tell me what goes through their mind with something like this?
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She blocked you because she moved on and is done with you. She’s likely met someone new or at the very least realized that staying in contact with you hurts.
Don’t ask anyone anything. Just take the loss and move on
My ex blocked me on all social media, but left lines of communication available for texts and calls. Why?
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I’m a guy and I did something similar with my ex. I had a hard time moving on at first after breaking up, and one thing that made it more difficult was seeing pictures of her on social media. If your ex is like me, he’s trying to move on, or at the very least have some time without you or reminders of you. When I blocked my ex, there was no hurtful intention, it just was hard to keep having reminders of her everywhere when I wanted her out of my head for a while.
Also it sounds like you would like to reconcile or at least keep in touch. Don’t wait for him to say something. If that’s something you want be honest and share your thoughts, and if you’re worried about privacy (like him taking a screenshot of it) do it in person. Maybe he thinks you two can reconcile but thinks you don’t. All to say talk to him if you think there could be something more, but he’s probably just trying to get through breaking up in his own way which may be hard to read into.
I don’t like seeing ‘ex hate’ on social media.
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Now, this might be part bias as I’m a John Mayer fan as well as a swiftie. But for me, it’s unsettling seeing people drag Taylor’s exes into the mud.
We’ve gotten enough from Taylor’s music to see where their faults are. However, I think it’s completely unfair and nonsensical to drag them into the mud over a breakup that happened over 10 years ago.
I was thinking about it if they weren’t celebrities. Imagine deciding you don’t love your partner and leaving them. And then 10 years later all their friends start telling everyone you’re a horrible person and you won’t ever change and you shouldn’t be allowed near anyone.
But then for Taylor’s sake, stop bringing up a relationship that happened 10 years ago. Help her heal and STOP BRINGING IT UP! If it’s on our fyp, it’s on hers. And I don’t know about you, but the last thing I’d want to be reminded of is my own heartbreak. Especially a painful one that took place more than a decade ago.
Is it just me? Or do some people see how wrong and ignorant it is?
Xoxo Gossip Gorl x
Edit: a John Mayer fan means a music fan before you all drag me like the nice people you are.
Edit 2: sorry for triggering some of you by mentioning John Mayer. Any exes. Joe is being dragged for what reason? Oh, no reason. For all we know they might still be together. Some of y’all are too young to be on social media and it shows.
Edit 3: what happened to Taylor - or at least what we THINK happened to Taylor is horrific. But there’s saying that someone did something wrong and then there’s sending them death threats, bringing up stories we don’t know are true. Keep yourselves to yourselves and support Taylor’s music. That’s why we’re here.
Edit 4: the thing that’s scary is the ‘John you’re next’. Like next what? Next to be bullied by 12 year olds? What about the next new Taylor album, yall will be saying ‘Joe you’re next’. It’s so wrong. Some aren’t good people but don’t act like you’re part of law enforcement and are actually going to do anything.
Edit 5: thinking about the song High Infidelity (I love Taylor so I’m not slandering) but y’all praised her for cheating ?? Not expecting harassment and it’s a good song but if she had said someone’s cheated on me, you’d be quick to send death threats.
Edit 6: sometimes I feel so ashamed to be a swiftie. Now I can’t even like other peoples music? What’s next? Xx
Edit 7: remember the Miss Americana documentary? “It’s more than just music at this point” said in tears and dismay. You are adding to that narrative.
Edit 8: some of y’all have never been in a real relationship and it shows.
Edit 9: Taylor singing begin again has been relayed to a post form Joe months ago? Y’all gotta stop. Taylor’s just singing songs she wants to when she wants to
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Yea seeing it towards Joe rn is pissing me off. There’s no evidence to support him being this terrible person people are saying he was. In fact, Taylor’s written many songs indicating the very opposite. To harass and insult him is embarrassing
Should I remove my ex on social media?
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I can’t stand seeing pictures of her everywhere I go and seeing her stories and stuff, it’s makes it almost impossible to move on. We also talk every once and awhile kind of like a “check in” which is nice but it also just ends up making me sad and restarting the process. We dated for 3 years and I love her so much and I feel like if I removed her I would regret it down the road?
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in your first sentence you answer your own question. yes, delete her!
My Ex keeps posting about me vaguely on Social Media.
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I've made some previous posts about my(18M) ex(17F), if you want the full story you can read them all. We had been dating for 1.5 years Long story short, we broke up because we had bad communications and because we thought we were toxic to eachother, however we still loved each other, and a lot of unnecessary games took place after the break up, this was our third time breaking up, usually someone would've reached out by now and the other person would be glad and we would get back together because of how much we miss eachother. When I said games I meant posting vague stories on Instagram about a night out in the middle of midnight, not tagging anyone, following exes, boys in general, showing how happy she is, pretending going to the beach etc.
It's been a month and one week since the day we broke up, the longest we have ever went without eachother.
She kept posting things on her Instagram story like those memes that say things like "me on my wedding day posting about how trash men are" and things like that that are bashing men, even though we ended on good terms. Yesterday she posted a thing about Zodiac signs (stupid I know) but it probably wasn't for the zodiac sign but for the message. She reposted a post on her story about how each zodiac sign responds to an "I miss you" text, presumably from an ex.
Her zodiac's response was "Get lost" (also something she never said in our previous break ups or this one, she actually reached out to me during this breakup to tell me she loved me and then took it all back the next day)
I don't understand why after 3 weeks of absolute no contact, she would post things like this about me.
If anyone has an idea please be sure to comment. Thank you.
TL:DR my ex posted memes about how bad men are and how she would tell me to get lost if I texted her because it's her "zodiac sign behavior", I don't understand why she does this because we haven't spoken to eachother in 3 weeks.
Top Comment: Stop following her, stop analysing every little thing. It doesn't matter why she posts anything, it's nothing to do with you anymore. You'll drive yourself mad.
Should I unfollow my ex's friends on social media?
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Im not really friends w them, they r just my ex's friends. I dont have any hard feelings for them they are nice people but Idk, they are not MY friends so Im not really interested in their lives u know? Wyd?
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Yeah delete away. Your ex is the only connection.
My boyfriend still stalking his ex wife (social media)
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my boyfriend officially divorced 3 months ago. But he keeps stalking his ex-wife, but he always says he doesn't feel anything for her (he asked for a divorce), we have an open relationship. and also we always talk about everything, I'm not one to be jealous, but this is kind of boring. He always tells me everything, he doesn't do it secretly, I've already dropped hints about him stalking, and he keeps doing it. It's normal? What do I do?
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Not normal.
Think of how much fun you'll have when he starts stalking you when your break up with him because of this.
My BPD ex blocked me on every social media but unblocked me on telegram without saying anything. What does this mean?!
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I'm realy sorry, but this whole question is a mess built upon layers. I'm gonn try to be quick to sum it up....
Me and my BPD ex broke up 2 months ago due to me being hurt by her. One month passes by and i take up contact again asking to try one last time. She replied she was dating someone else and i panicked telling her how i would try harder on everything and how i knew she still had feelings for me. Anyway, she responds that for her it's more "important to be loved than to love someone and not feeling loved enough", my stomach just turned and i got all needy and stuff.
She a week later revealed she was no longer dating, but that she also wasn't interested in trying again. So i asked her "so i should stop trying?" just to make things straight but she just replied that it's my choice. So i tried again, trying to build trust and reliability and everything. I literally emotionally and physically drained myself because I wanted to show her my detication. She didn't trust me and held back, but she every so slightly gave in. In small moments we talked about having a date, and even had 1 or 2 intimate moments.
I thought it was getting better, but i had a incredible busy work schedule for 4 days a row and i had limited capacity to communicate with her at work, besides when i came home from work i was so exhausted i immediately went into sleep. But after the 4 days she suddenly stopped communicating via text, i got this gutfeeling something was wrong, so i tried to call her, she just hanged up and i got a text saying i should "stop calling her gf", i just got so confused so i called again and then someone picked up saying that I shouldn't call his girlfriend and that she doesn't wanna talk to me because she's scared of me. After that she blocked me everywhere i tried to contact her. But the wierd fact is, after 2 weeks with grief and confusion to the whole situation she unblocked me on telegram, but she hasn't messaged or said anything. I'm just really confused and i realy hope someone out there can help me getting a better understanding of if this is bpd..... Thank you so much <3
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It sounds like a hoover. She's seeing if you will give her attention especially if her new relationship crashes.